I'm finally getting to that age where people I know are getting engaged. It makes me feel old, but at the same time, I feel like I'm too young for it. Here are some examples I've heard lately, starting with completely understandable to WHAT!?
Couple #1 J &W - J is 20 and W is 21. They have been dating since they were about 15. They both have decent paying job and are pretty much perfect for each other. They also plan to hold off the actually wedding for a little while until J is out of school in about 2 semesters and they get settled with their out of college lives. This one sound pretty logical to me, and I think I would be ready for engagement at that point too.
Couple #2 L & C- L is almost 21 and C is about 23/24. C was off fighting in Iraq practically out of high school and when he got back, he started dating L about 1.5-2 years ago. I also sort of understand this situation. C is older and after Iraq, you really understand that life is short so why wait.
Couple #3 K & W- Both are 20 and have been dating for a year and 7 months and got engaged after a year and few months. K used to work with me (recently quit) so I know she is not making enough money to support herself. Supposedly, they are madly in love, but you can also be madly in love and not be engaged
Couple #4- S & A- S is 19 and A is 18. They have only been dating for about 6 months and A is only a freshman in college, and their relationship is long distance. I have no comment for this one.
Now I might seem like a Scrooge in terms of love, but I'm really not. I just look at these relationships (besides maybe the first 2) and wonder why its so important to get engaged so fast. I have an amazing boyfriend who I love a lot and we have a great relationship, but I think that we would both agree that we are too young to be engage. I can't imagine myself in 6 months being engage, planning my wedding, when I can barely legally drink at my own wedding! If for some reason, my boyfriend was to go crazy for minute and ask me to marry him, I would say yes, but only on the terms that we would be engage for another 2 or 3 years before we got married. There are few more years of growing up that both him and I need. I want to be financially supporting myself, because I don't want to be living off Mom's and Dad's money when I'm about to get married.
I don't mean to offend anyone that got married young or fast. Many times, it does work, but just putting myself into those situations that's how I would feel.
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